It is said that, on average, each one of us complains about 15 to 30 times every day. This mostly comes in the form of venting to a partner or to a friend when we are tired, afraid, overwhelmed, or have an overload of feelings and we need an outlet. It’s healthy and refreshing after we vocalize about situations or people, including our boss, our day, our loss, perpetrated injustice, imminent danger, politics, or the deep distresses of our hearts and souls when life is difficult. When looked at this way, complaining can be constructive, healing, reparative, and can cultivate relationships that have deeper connection.
However, our complaining may sometimes go overboard and become exhausting to the listeners; especially when we become people who are never satisfied, when we become unhappy people who are constantly frustrated over everything, when we become people who are discontented, who cannot see the positive side of anything, and when we get into the habit of constantly bombarding others with our issues. At such times, complaining becomes a sinister way of asserting ourselves to secure our own comfort regardless of how those around us feel, and we end up conveying defiance, disrespect, or disapproval. Continue Reading "Complain Not, Whine Not, Just Be Grateful For What You’ve Got"