It is said that, on average, each one of us complains about 15 to 30 times every day. This mostly comes in the form of venting to a partner or to a friend when we are tired, afraid, overwhelmed, or have an overload of feelings and we need an outlet. It’s healthy and refreshing after we vocalize about situations or people, including our boss, our day, our loss, perpetrated injustice, imminent danger, politics, or the deep distresses of our hearts and souls when life is difficult. When looked at this way, complaining can be constructive, healing, reparative, and can cultivate relationships that have deeper connection.

However, our complaining may sometimes go overboard and become exhausting to the listeners; especially when we become people who are never satisfied, when we become unhappy people who are constantly frustrated over everything, when we become people who are discontented, who cannot see the positive side of anything, and when we get into the habit of constantly bombarding others with our issues. At such times, complaining becomes a sinister way of asserting ourselves to secure our own comfort regardless of how those around us feel, and we end up conveying defiance, disrespect, or disapproval. Continue Reading "Complain Not, Whine Not, Just Be Grateful For What You’ve Got"

Take me back to the old times when families were intact;
When husbands were loving, wives were supportive, and children were polite;
When families stuck together in good times and in bad times;
When mothers could cook and dads would work;
When mothers would raise their children without house helps;
When fathers would get home early to see the children off to bed;
When divorce was unthinkable, and abortion was illegal;
Bring the family back together, I pray; bring back the emotional support, love, security, and protection that families provided.

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Doctors will confirm that a significant number of patients in hospitals are suffering from conditions and disorders that are not infection-related; they are suffering from conditions that are not caused by germs or bugs such as viruses, bacteria, parasites, or fungi; but the conditions they are suffering from are directly related to their perceptions and thoughts.  Results of medical and laboratory tests carried out on these patients indicate that they are not sick and yet they are suffering from “physical symptoms” that include insomnia (lack of sleep), anxiety, hot flashes, night sweats, anger, frustration, impatience, emotional trauma, physical trauma, allergies, digestive issues, back pain, distress, disability and constipation.

These “physical symptoms” are caused by mental, emotional or psychological factors and they are called psychosomatic disorders. Psychosomatic means mind (psyche) and body (soma). A psychosomatic disorder is a disease which involves both mind and body. It is a disease whereby the mind causes a person to suffer physical symptoms or medical conditions which cannot be explained by medical tests or physical examination. Continue Reading "The Healing Powers of Contentment"